1. Denial: Denial can come in many forms, including confusion. Being confused is a normal feeling after a break up. you may start to wonder Why? How? When? What changed? It may take some time to come to terms with it all, but all you need to know is that it happened and so it's time to heal.
2. Anger: You may think you're mad at first, but girl you wasn't really mad. That anger will come, trust. That's time in your life now down the drain. Over time, you'll start to remember all the shit you put up with that nobody else would and it will PISS you off! you'll be more mad at yourself for going through it, than you are at him for putting you through it.
3. Bargain: Or as I like to call it, the in-between stage. No break up is ever really official until one or the other of you tries to "talk it out" or "gain closure". That's really just an excuse for one of ya'll to either fuck or wedge your way back in. Nobody ever really gains closure foreal foreal. It's human nature to be curious and want to know why and all that, but it's also human nature to have a hard time letting go of something that once belonged to you.
4. Depression:
This shit is going to eat you alive. Everybody is different, but still that's TIME IN YOUR LIFE, it had to mean something. That depression will rock you like a tidal wave and try to drown you under. You'll start feeling like it's your fault (if you let it), like you're not good enough, like "maybe if this, or maybe if that would've happened then..." (FUCK ALLAT).
You will need a certified playlist to get you through because those tears won't fall by themselves. This stage can either make your relationship with God stronger, or turn you into a bitter Betty (like me; screaming ALL MEN AIN'T SHIT to anybody that will listen😂). You must be very careful during this stage, you're fragile like a broken bone. You can be easily molded depending on how you choose to heal.
5. Acceptance:
This stage has always taken me FOREVER to get to. This is the best part of breakups. Think of it as a shedding of skin. this is where you rediscover who you are without him. It may take weeks, or months, or years, but baby once you're there...there is nothing anybody on this planet can tell you that could ever bring you back to where you were in that depressive stage. When you reach acceptance, you'll no longer be bitter, or angry, or depressive, but happy (yes happy despite it all) that you had that experience with him. Because whether you want to admit it or not, he's helped to shape who you've become today just by being in your life.
Regardless of how you broke up, you'll be thankful that he gave you that experience because it'll be one of the most crucial learning lessons of your life. It teaches you what you will or will not accept in your next relationship. It teaches you what you want, and it shows you how far you have come.
I think the best part of a break up is that it is a motivator. Possibly the biggest one you'll come across, but I guarantee you'll do anything to prove you're better without him...including bettering yourself, or aiming for success. You'll reach for goals you otherwise wouldn't have thought of just to prove a point and it works most of the time.
My advice would be to not try and rush it. Allow yourself to FEEL and go through these stages completely. Don't rush to be "okay". It's okay to not be okay. Nobody has a timer on when you should be better or "over it", but God. Take your time and get through this in your own time. It'll happen.
Link to mt Ultimat Heartbreak Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL3aDW2Qc82n2aHfBQchKOtkJa_rc_OeXT